I do not like to ask people for help. If I am capable, I am going to do it myself rather than ask someone to do it. On the other hand, if a person asks for help, I am going to bend over backwards, and if I cannot, I will find someone who can. Most of the time people don't ask, I just see that I can help them and do it. I am not looking for brownie points, I don't expect anything from them, and I certainly am not going to get a bonus. I actually like it better if very few even know what I did. Helping other people is a very selfish , because it genuinely makes me happy. I don't like when people make excuses for not doing what needs done.
On the stubborn side, I absolutely cannot tolerate people telling me what I can and cannot do. Call it my inner toddler, but my gut reaction is to do the opposite. If someone were to say, Marcy, don't do that, my first thought would be, "WATCH ME." Really, I am surprised that attitude hasn't gotten me into trouble more. Maybe I shouldn't even admit to that flaw, lol! I can see some of my friends now, deviously plotting different ways they can manipulate me for their entertainment!! A warning to my friends though, my oppositional defiance comes with a whopping side order of bitch. Just sayin'
Getting to the point, when it comes to other people, I am willing to go the extra mile, to go out of my way to make things better, to make people happier, to give my time and energy without excuses. In helping other people, my attitude is always "Watch me!" Why is it that I cannot seem to do that with my own wants and needs?
I talk too much, but you would be surprised at how much of myself I keep hidden. I walk around with my head up, acting like I own the whole place, shoulders back like I am strong and fearless, and yet it is just a shield of protection. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of looking foolish, has kept me from developing deeper friendships, trying new things, expressing myself in a more honest way.
What I want now is for that defiant inner child to kick in, so that when I tell myself I can't do something, she will put her hands on her hips, stick out her chin and say "WATCH ME!"
I can't lose the weigh, its too hard ...WATCH ME
I can't give up the beer, I need it to relax... WATCH ME
I can't work on my art, its not good enough, I dont have the time... WATCH ME
I can't learn to play an instrument, Im too old.... WATCH ME
I can't run in a marathon, people will laugh at me... WATCH ME
I can't show people all of myself, they will reject me... WATCH ME
It's funny that as a person who has so little tolerance for excuses, I have let fear become my greatest excuse for not becoming the person I would like to be. I wore a Ray Ban tee shirt to school on Friday that read "Never Hide". It seems so hypocritical to wear it, but I love that shirt, the motto is like a goal. As a helpful hypocrite, I tried to convince one of my friends of their own worth, that even when taking care of the things they were responsible for, they should pursue things that make them happy too.
Well, I want to stop hiding, to stop being afraid, to stop making excuses for not doing the things that I want to. Each time I catch myself thinking that I can't, I'm going to practice, "WATCH ME!"
First off, that is one of my all time favorite pictures of my baby!
ReplyDeleteSugar, I know you can do anything you put your mind to.
You can lost weight, you look amazing!
You can give up beer, you did it before!
You art is awesome and you should definitely set aside more time for
it!
You're never too old to learn an to play an instrument, just look at your
Dad , he just started last yea with the piano and he loves it!
You can run in a marathon, maybe you won't finis 1st but I know you
would do great!
You can show your true self, you may get rejected by some, but those
are the ones you can do without , the rest of us will love you because of who you are!
Love you baby and I am watching.